Couple Counseling

Maybe this has led to bigger and more frequent fights, or perhaps the distance has grown and you've noticed yourself thinking about divorce. You may be feeling frustrated, or simply lonely. Perhaps you’re even feeling unwanted and uncared for. And even though you are both smart and successful people, you still seem to be stuck. You have probably tried everything you can think of to improve the relationship and are wondering if there is anything left to try. Whatever it is that you’re experiencing, you’re beginning to notice the impact of this in every facet of your life:

• Pulling away emotionally because sharing your feelings and being misunderstood has hurt too much.
• Wearing yourself thin, doing everything yourself, when you really long to be a team.
• Worrying and losing sleep over the future of you marriage.
• Becoming more irritable as the despair and resentment grow.

If this sounds like you, then you are in the right place.

It may feel impossible now, but you can save your marriage. You can become emotionally close again. You can create relationship security. And we can help you get there.

1. Identify the root of the problems you’re experiencing.
2. Understand how you and your partner relate to one another and the patterns you get stuck in.
3. Increase your ability to be emotionally vulnerable with each other and communicate more clearly.
4. Learn the tools that will help resolve your problems, so you can feel satisfied and securing  your relationship.

We'll help through this process, tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances. Our approach to marriage counseling comes from a place of hope: believing that neither you nor your partner are the “problem”, but that it’s simply the cycle or pattern you’re in that needs fixing.

In marriage counseling, you'll learn to communicate your feelings more clearly, and improve your ability to understand and empathize with one another. 

Our approach to marriage counseling is based on Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT), which is the #1 research-validated relationship therapy and the ONLY couple therapy recommended by the  American Psychological Association to help improve relationships. In Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with us, we will do a thorough assessment of your relationship, discover your relationships specific strengths and area's for growth,  and discuss what makes for emotionally secure relationships.We'll deep dive into:

• Discovering the interactional pattern you have been caught in that keeps you feeling distant in your marriage
• Exploring the underlying emotions and longings that are at the heart of the cycle you are stuck in
• Changing your communication to be effective and clear communication 
• Rebuilding trust in the relationship, especially if there has been a betrayal of some kind 
• Enhancing your sexual satisfaction so you can reconnect in an intimate way 
• Building a secure relationship bond in your marriage
• ... and so much more!

We are committed to a non-judgmental experience. we look through a lens that honors what makes us human. We are relational beings, hard wired to connect. What makes us different is where we want to be especially open, curious and never presume we are experts. we welcome all, including sexual orientation, relationship status, age, race, disability, ethnicity/national origin, gender identity and religious/spiritual affiliation.